In 8 days it will be Texas Tech Day at the ballpark. In 8 days the band Rush will play at American Airliines Center. In 8 days I will be saying "I do." And That is huge. For 32 years of my life I have been "me" and now it all jumps to "we" and "us". I thank the Lord that we both know what true mercy is, cause we're gonna need it. I suppose that is why marriage is a reflection of the way Christ loved us. This is what I gather from all our classes and counseling: Marriage is love, mercy, sacrifice, hope, pain, faithfulness, teamwork, comprimise, pleasure , comfort and joy. I have heard the following things and taken it to heart: In arguments there is only win-win and lose-lose. When one person loses you both lose. Marriage is not 50/50, it is 100/100. The 13 month is the hardest. Women are like crock pots and men are like microwaves. Marriage is not better than being single, it is just different. You cannot change the other person. Marriage will not solve your problems. When kids come the husband becomes less important to the wife. Big item purchases must be discussed. Money is a big cause of divorce, so learn to give it all up. Speak each others's love language every day. Always try to make more deposits into the love bank than withdrawels. Continue dating her. The house will change. The bedtimes will change. The meals will change. Never let anything fester. Your wife is your accountability partner. The husband is the spiritual leader of the house. The husband is responsible for the decisions of the family and must make them out of love.Your wife will feel your sin. Do not bring alcohol into the marriage because that affects everyone. Never use the word "divorce" Never let the in-laws make the family decisions. Even if I am not a morning person I should not cause my spouse to have a bad day from it. The wife needs to make an effort to pull my hidden feelings out of me. Each other's happiness is very important. You still need to understand your own happiness and communicate that to each other.
And that's all I've got for. I'll check back with this in a year and see if what I said was wise...

8 Days to Go!